We live in a society that always wants to be flawless. A society that can never be fully satisfied. We always want to improve ourselves, do more self-optimization, become sportier, happier and more fulfilled. It goes always higher, further, faster. Better. As soon as we reach our goal, it goes straight on. Never enough. More success, more money, more happiness.
Oh, wow. How long we waited for the summer. How nice to see Berlin finally blossoming. Berlin can be very sad, lonely and lethargic in winter… Dragging our mood with it. To escape the cold there is only one solution: Go away from Berlin. Choose a country with beautiful beaches and high temperatures and go! Bye grey skies, hello sun!
We don’t want to think about the winter. God forbid! We would like to give you some warm thoughts from our last trip.
I am sure I have a sane mind. Why? For the amount of anxiety that on it lies. What better proof of consciousness than to feel trapped in a vertigo state commuting around the city? Watching all those beings on the train, trying forcibly to ignore each other, having dreams of wealth and health, just for them, never to anyone else. A new wave of narcissism swept our society like a tsunami that no one saw coming.
Maybe some of you have already noticed. Last month I had wanderlust and it drew me to Vietnam. Do you already know our article in which I write about my thoughts? I don’t want to deny it, life in Vietnam is definitely different. It is overwhelming. What I immediately noticed is that it’s not only different in its way, but also in its attitude. Our mission is, among other things, to bring a little light and sun into your day, so for you four reasons what we should absolutely copy from the Vietnamese.
Phobias: “A strong feeling of fear that occurs in certain situations or is triggered by the sight of certain things, and increasingly restricts the person affected.” At least that’s how Google describes it. Omniscient. As always. I’m still a long way from being that far. I still have no idea what to expect. One click and I open a list. 70 phobias, sorted alphabetically. Roughly scroll down. I am astonished, how many different ones there are. Fear of height, of depth, of noise, of one’s own reflection, of pain, of touch, of spiders, of numbers, of technology or even of men. Well, the latter three are absolutely comprehensible to me. We all have to deal with fears in our everyday lives. We can’t avoid it. Sometimes more, sometimes less, sometimes stronger or weaker. Part of our lives in a healthy environment. We receive signals to be attentive and careful in extraordinary situations. A basic instinct that tells us to protect ourselves from danger.
She can’t breathe. Trying to gasp for air. A rope is tied around her throat. She tries to free herself. With every breath she feels the narrowness. The pulse stops when he touches her. Millions of insects crawl, crawl and spread over her body. When he slowly strokes her shoulder, each of her limbs shrugs.
Women. We are loving, courageous, strong and self-confident … At least that’s how we appear on the outside. But are we really? Or are they just masks that we wear every day? I know great women who are perfect inside and out. They seem strong, charming and courageous. But when we enter into soul talk mode, it comes to light what these women really think about themselves: “I have no talents”, “I’m too fat”, “I’m incapable of relationships”. These are the first lines Daniela Batista des Santos writes for a blog post for Im Gegenteil. Strong and true words. That makes it all the more important that we enter into a healthy dialogue with ourselves. Dani is a coach and the founder of the Circle of Wonderwomen in Hamburg. We talked with her to find out what do we need to have a healthy relationship with ourselves.
Just over half of Berliners are singles. More than half of them are alone in Berlin, searching, despairing or instead enjoying their time alone. After the article “I am alone but not lonely” I thought a lot about being alone and having a life as a single. Mostly, people feel the same way as me. The different reactions of my interviewees were interesting. Many saw the question “Do you like being alone?” as a kind of accusation. “But I’m not,” they replied. I was specifically looking for people who understood me and my world of thoughts. Singles who enjoy being alone. Four people, four emotional worlds. And one thing in common: we all like to be alone. We are all happy.
In the best case, a couple is a unit, a team or a symbiosis. Together, they manage any emerging crisis according to the motto: “What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger”. But what we should not forget is that a couple still consists of two individuals. Between children, work and household tasks, the partner sometimes fades into the background. Especially in long-term relationships it requires more and more strength and energy. We talked to the couple therapist Mrs. Otto and wanted to know what the reasons are and how to avoid living apart.
Some people are familiar with such relationships, some are themselves stuck in one: sometimes we get caught in people who definitely do us no good; a life between closeness and coldness, love and suffering, always at the narrow degree of high flight and deep fall, a roller coaster of emotions, the purest nerve carousel. You have a toxic relationship with a toxic partner. There is no antidote yet. We talked to a couple therapist, Christian von Uhl, who explained us the signs of a toxic partner and why it is so difficult to break free.